Su Shi: How to thoroughly see a person?
If you ask me, which ancient literati had the widest circle of friends?
My answer is only one: Su Shi.
According to scholars' statistics, Su Shi has nearly a thousand friends in his social circle.
From nobles and ink merchants to peddlers, from bustling Kyoto to mountainous villages, Su Shi's friends can be said to be spread all over the world.
In the era without mobile phones and computers, such a large number of friends could be considered a miracle.
But Su Shi also said, "A single snowflake on the east railing brings a sense of melancholy, and life is clear and bright
The more people we interact with, the more we become aware of the complexity of human hearts.
After going through the hustle and bustle, Su Shi tells you how to quickly see a person clearly.
1. Small matters and trivialities look at human nature
People are animals that are good at disguising themselves.
But even the most shrewd person can reveal their true character in small things that they may not pay attention to.
After all, subconscious words and actions can better reflect a person's inner thoughts.
Once, Su Shi made an appointment with his friend Xie Jingwen to take a walk in the outskirts.
A wounded little bird fell from a tree, and Su Shi was about to bend down and pick it up.
Xie Jingwen strode forward and kicked the little bird aside.
A careless gesture made Su Shi's heart cool halfway.
He believed that this person must be a bully who bullies the weak and benefits oneself at the expense of others, and should not have close friendships.
As expected, later Xie Jingwen falsely accused Su Shi of trafficking illegal salt for profit in order to achieve fame and fortune, and made several attempts to put Su Shi to death.
A glimpse of the leopard, fall a leaf and know autumn.
The ugliness and brilliance of human nature are most insightful in some casual little things.
In his early years, Su Shi also had a very close friend named Zhang Dun. The two were Jinshi on the same list.
One day the two were playing in the mountains and walked to a cliff. There was only a single wooden bridge in front of them.
Zhang Dun offered to let Su Shi cross the bridge and leave their names on the cliff.
Su Shi saw the abyss under the bridge and shook his head to express his refusal.
But when Zhang Dun walked easily without changing his face, he wrote the words "Su Shi Zhang Dun came here for a visit" on the cliff.
When I came back, I looked good.
As a result, Su Shi couldn't help sighing and saying, "You will be able to kill people in the future."
Zhang Dun asked, "Why?"
Su Shi said: "If you don't cherish your own life, you won't cherish the lives of others."
A few years later, Zhang Dun became prime minister, and his former political enemies were either killed or denounced.
Sima Guang, who had argued with him, had passed away at this time, but Zhang Dun still did not give up and demanded to dig his grave, dig his grave and whip his corpse.
The ruthless, visible.
There is an old saying in China: "The product is in the world, and the heart is hidden in the body."
Life is a mixture of fish and dragons, and most of the time what we see in front of us is just an appearance.
A person's deep-seated appearance, we need to know through the usual clues.
People with valuable character, even in the most subtle places, can stick to their original heart and keep good.
People who are morals are the opposite.
They can leave the bottom line in small things, or they can be insensitive in big things; they can drink with you today, or they can turn around and betray you.
Details, often the most can see a person.
2. Linxi and anger look at your mind
In the book "Lu's Spring and Autumn Annals", there used to be "eight views and six tests" to identify people.
The two most important of them are "to be happy and to be angry and to be angry and to be tested."
If you want to see the size of a person's pattern, you must test it through emotions such as happiness and anger.
Because people only in extreme emotions, will show real self-restraint and mind.
In the first year of Song Zhezong, Prime Minister Sima Guang died, and a group of officials went to the prime minister's office to pay their respects.
I didn't expect the door, but I didn't see Sima Guang's son to greet me.
Only after asking did I know that it was Luo Party leader Cheng Yi who banned them from coming out.
The reason is that Cheng Yi believes that there is no such rule in the ancient rites, and if a filial son is really filial, he should be too sad to see anyone.
In the face of Cheng Yi's statement, Su Shi thought it was absurd: "this is a kind of dross etiquette system, which is not desirable."
Originally this sentence, just on the matter.
However, Cheng Yi felt that Su Shi had brushed his face in front of everyone, so he became angry from embarrassment.
He raised his voice and argued in front of the crowd, despite the fact that Sima Guang's funeral was taking place.
Since then, Cheng Yi saw Su Shi as a thorn in the flesh, and the resulting "Shuluo party struggle" lasted for decades.
The so-called, usually do not know the meaning, from anger peep into the heart.
People with a small pattern will haggle over every word and action of others and burn with anger.
People with a large pattern can tolerate others and self-denial, and will not be bitter between happiness and anger.
When Su Shi was in Yangzhou, there was a banquet for guests, and calligrapher Mi Fei was also present.
At that time, the literati believed that although Mi Fu was talented, he had a strange personality and was arrogant.
So halfway through the banquet, Mi Fei stood up and asked Su Shi, "The world says I am crazy. What do you think?"
Su Shi had to smile and tell the truth: "I follow the crowd."
If you were a narrow-minded person, you might already be annoyed.
However, Mi Fu was different. He laughed with everyone and made a good talk.
The mountain is high as the peak, and all rivers run into the sea.
A person's life pattern is big, it will not sink in trivial adornment.
A truly magnanimous person will not be furious because of a trivial matter, and will not hold a grudge because of a contradiction.
Compared with those who get angry when they don't agree with each other, those who can still maintain an open mind in anger are worthy of deep friendship.
3. good times and bad times look at sincerity
Mr. Yang Jiang said:
When you are in a high position, all you see are flashy spring dreams. When you are in a humble position, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the world.
When people are in the scenery, applause and follow always come easily.
Only when you fall down can you really see who is false and who is true.
Su Shi has a painter friend named Li Gonglin.
When Su Shi was a great minister and famous all over the world, they talked and laughed, drank and sang.
Especially in the Yuanyou period, Li Gonglin was the statue of the temple of the Su family painters.
But when Su Shi was demoted and moved south and went out of Beijing with his family, Lu met Li Gonglin.
Su Shi's son Su Guo wanted to say hello to him, but unexpectedly Li Gonglin rode on a horse, covered his face with a fan, turned around and pretended not to know him.
I think of a saying, "how many people around you are sincere to you, and how many people are acting on the scene, you will know when something happens."
The vagaries of the human heart and the true and false feelings need time to see them clearly.
There was another group of people around him.
They sent countless warmth to Su Shi when he was down and out, and gave him the greatest kindness when he was in adversity.
such as chen shi-chung.
After the "Wutai Poetry Case", Chen Shizhong was implicated and suffered a lot. However, he did not mind and repeatedly took the initiative to write to Su Shi.
In the poems written at ordinary times, "ten often four or five" refer to the Su Shi brothers.
Even Su Shi could not help but sigh: "How deep love also."
Such as the horse dream.
Ma Meng is a famous poor man.
Su Shi once wrote in his diary: Dream and I were born in the same month in the same year. We are both poor, but by comparison, we still dream a little poorer.
After Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou, Ma Mengde ran around and took out his only savings to find a piece of land for Su Shi to cultivate, which solved the livelihood problem of Su Shi's family.
Muddy horse, trouble to know people.
True friendship is never a cup to change when the spring breeze is proud, but a helping hand in poverty.
False feelings, in the time of the washing will have no hiding;
Sinful, in the years of experience will last forever.
Those friends who never leave when you are down and out are worth cherishing for a lifetime.
Throughout Su Shi's life, three ups and three downs.
In the course of repeated circumstances, some praised him and helped him, others slandered him and destroyed him.
But no matter how many people he saw clearly and how many things he saw through, he could eliminate the smoke with a cool smile.
As far as he is concerned, he can see it clearly or look down upon it.
The so-called wisdom of the way of life, no such.
May you keep a pair of discerning eyes in the world.
Wave goodbye to the wrong person and spend the rest of your life with the right person.
To keep a calm heart, do the world at ease.
Information source: Enterprise management
